Have you ever been to a bar? A single woman will attract lots of male attention. A single man won't have a similar level of females flocking to him unless he's got movie star looks.

These are vast generalizations with plenty of exceptions, but surely you have noticed that in most cultures men tend to pursue women more actively than vice-versa?

Right, but it wasn't clear to me that that was mayaross's point exactly, or if it was her whole point. I'm interested in what women think about the dynamics of dating and courtship, as it's something I think a lot about and sort of struggle with in some ways.