Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

Re:Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me by cousin_it on Monday August 24, 2015 @09:42AM (#10109602)

Something can be both accurate and mean at the same time. Example: "hey, you're fat". I feel that "hey, you're bitter and need to get some friends" is about the same ballpark. Maybe other people have a thicker skin, though.

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Re:Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me by acqq on Monday August 24, 2015 @09:46AM (#10109625)

So how would you write that message? The big part of the statement was skipped by you:

> I think you should make more friends that are women so that you can talk to them about the way they view relationships.

Which definitely doesn't sound near to "hey, you're fat."

And that "fat-like" part is also in fact different:

"It sounds like you're pretty bitter (...)" -- note that it discusses the impression of the written comment not the person.

Btw I don't think it's OK to remove your claim that roymurdock's response was "mean" as the responses then lose the context, maybe deleting the comment would be more appropriate?

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Re:Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me by cousin_it on Monday August 24, 2015 @10:07AM (#10109783)

> So how would you write that message?

I guess I wouldn't write it. When I read transfire's and roymurdock's comments, it's not obvious to me whose opinion is more informed, or if the question even makes sense. Their experiences with women could just be different, and one ended up more cynical than the other.

> Btw I don't think it's OK to remove your claim that roymurdock's response was "mean"

Yeah. Sorry. I was just trying to make my own comment less mean :-/

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Re:Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me by acqq on Monday August 24, 2015 @10:12AM (#10109834)

> When I read transfire's and roymurdock's comments, it's not obvious to me whose opinion is more informed,

Please watch Monty Python's sketch "Nudge nudge."

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