Most product managers, in my experience, greatly overestimate their own level of knowledge. Your whole post smacks of this too, and when you say you "get into the weeds" on technical tradeoffs, it's quite likely that you're wasting the engineers' time trying to debate things that are either utterly inconsequential or are obviously wrong to anyone with a basic grasp of the technology.

Also when you refer to engineers and designers as being "yours," this is a huge red flag. They are not your subordinates--at least not in any company that's worth working for. You would do yourself well not to think of them as such.