In exactly which countries is having sex with someone under the false pretense you're being faithful the same as rape? Note: not simply illegal or punishable by law, but actual rape. Otherwise I think this point is moot.

If there are such countries, I wouldn't want to live there.

PS: if we're talking about countries where adulterous women can be stoned to death, I think we can all agree that is horrible and the public shaming of Ashley Madison customers completely pales next to the crime against humanity that is mutilating or murdering people for being unfaithful or gay. I'd consider those countries completely beyond the scope of this discussion.

I thought that was said of Sweden, due to the Wikileaks thing. I'm not expert enough on their laws to claim to understand it, though.

True, I remember reading about it in (extremely confusing) articles online. This is also a potentially politically motivated case, and I cannot find a concrete and convincing description of Swedish rape laws online.