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It’s also important not to be singled out as having money available, but I found this to be the case only around other people in poverty with a poverty mindset. It’s best for others in this environment to consider you out-group. If they consider you in-group they will sabotage and belittle your attempts to escape. It’s a delicate balance of seeming different but also poor. If other poor people find out you’ve been saving money they’ll try to take it. They have an odd view of what “having money” is. My mother is almost sixty and thinks if she has five hundred dollars then she has “a lot of money”.

Yes. I began working illegally at fifteen, I was lucky my boss didn’t bother to look at the age I wrote down on my application. I was able to buy clothes and food. At sixteen I got a second job and still went to high school. I was homeless and lived with my boyfriend, I did as much homework as I could and pulled C’s that year. My mother and her boyfriend bought a house and then decided they had enough room for me to live with them. My father was missing and presumed dead. I worked and spent my free time at the library and the gym. Being home meant subjecting myself to verbal abuse. I saved my money and moved to Silicon Valley right after my 21st birthday. I became a bioengineer and now I’m a stay at home mother and married a programmer. You can escape. Work, save, study and stay away from family members. Join a gym, use ear plugs. Live in your car/van in a nice town if you must. Do not stay around others in a poverty mindset. Get a cup of coffee in a cafe in a wealthy part of town, observe how they interact and emulate them. Go to free meet ups to be around people in a higher social class. You’re going to be working harder than anyone else around you for a while, that’s ok. Follow advice from early retirement blogs, take any shortcuts you can to success, don’t waste time getting a degree. Don’t do anything risky with your health or money. You can take risks in a few years. You can make it out. If there is anyone reading this in a terrible situation I can offer more advice.

You may want to try switching to non-scented soaps, laundry detergent and cleaners. Do you feel or have you been told she has sensory processing disorder? Another thing to try is talking to her, a lot. If you have a wife who works have her stay at home and work with your daughter on meeting milestones. Get whole genome sequencing done. See if she has any issues with methylation etc. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4203003/

Give her Dha and a multivitamin with more bioavailable forms of each vitamin or a whole food vitamin. My daughter will take these along with greens and fruit in smoothie form. Basically, do everything you can.

Thank you, I'll make sure to meet them in a public place.

As a child I rocked back and forth for hours finally stopping at nineteen with a huge amount of effort. I always did it behind closed doors. I was sexual abused and abandoned in my early teens. I came to California to help an AI researcher but ended up as a bio engineer and now a SAHM. The library was my refuge as a kid, no academic parents, no inspiring teachers. Fitting in was and is a huge challenge.

Thanks, will do.

This is hard to do but, are any other women on the spectrum looking for a friend? I'm 34, a SAHM and I live in Mountain View.