satokema
everyone loves a good story.
This isn't it at all. It's the first part that's the issue. It's not that I can't understand speech, it's I can't focus on having a conversation increasingly as the number of chaotic elements increase.
There's loud(ish) background noise, there's people moving around, there's the uncomfortable feeling of strangers nearer to me than I would optimally like. And so I've realized in my younger attempts to fit in that I couldn't relax and have a good time and talk to people because of some of those things, because they felt to me like immediate urgent things and the conversation while I would like to have it is not getting priority.
A similar thing happens in larger group contexts, more people is more mental overhead, and additionally there's an element of not knowing how to take a turn in group conversation because I either lack an appropriate referent to relate or I don't know when my turn is.
By the time I have both something to say and can pay attention to turn taking the conversation has already moved on and I have to start over.
But neurotype is definitely a strong element in it, both in interests and somehow in things like conversational turn-taking as well. It also helps that a lot of conversations end up happening in text for me, turn-taking isn't an issue when you can both type at the same time.
My conflict management skills are not very good. I take heart in the wisdom that it is possible to reach past hostility and work together. Just as I hope people reach past the ick and read his words on their own merit and not react to them how they are "supposed" to react.
My ratio isn't 100% but being referred or (in older times) called first have probably been the better experiences in my experience.
Recruiters this day are using one of a dozen or so recruiting platforms, all of which either have or ought to have functionality that tracks communications.
"Slipping through the cracks" isn't the issue. The issue is a lack of professionalism and diligence, which aren't things I want to see from someone that is going to filter out future employees.
For entertainment, consider that the Cold War could have been about finding intact UAPs, at least in some of the scuffles.
So are they hoping people just read the article title, go "heh!", and not think if there's a valid metric or correlation at play?
> Research before the COVID-19 pandemic has also found evidence of higher death rates in Republican-leaning counties than Democratic-leaning counties.
So they found nothing new?
VR is still a bit niche and only VRC actually offers an easy road to creating experiences - it's way easier to get novelty junkies on VRC to checkout a world than to try to sell or market a standalone experience. Probably easiest to just run a patreon at these levels than actually sell games, too.
leave the hustling to the juniors
(as it happens, this one hits the cloud)
These kinds of articles are always annoying because it invites a certain kind of person who will gush unendingly about how great exerting yourself is.
For me, exerting myself sucks, it is only something I want to do when it's attached to a game I want to play (and even that gets stale). It's only ever something I am either forcing myself to do (yuck) or doing for something besides the physical aspect of it (saving gas, playing a video game).
But instead of health advice being tailored to someone with my neurological makeup that causes this dislike of useless exertion, I'm just told that I need to "meditate" more or do yoga/X. If anything, meditation makes my body seem less like "me".
Just to add my contrarian two cents to a comment section that is otherwise mostly the former.
Anything I'm active on gainfully is as a psuedoanon; it's none of their business what I do there. Separation of business and pleasure. If asked any accounts that do happen to exist do not exist.
Only real name thing I have is a LinkedIn for old coworkers to find me on / networking.
"Half the galaxy is trying to jam [The Thumb] while the other half are trying to jam the jammers."
If you think being an online person is some horrible thing or a marker of being a bad person, you just value different things. The kinds of people in TFA are selected for by merit of not living up to your offline standards in one way or another.
This doesn't help if you're trying to bootstrap from nothing.
> just join a sports league
I spent solid chunks of childhood being forced into sports programs when I at best had below-average physical abilities. I even tried one summer as an adult to play in a league and I discovered that the physical gap had just widened and widened and it just helped isolate me until I quit going.
It's really great that people find things like sports leagues or meetups useful for this, but none of it overlaps with my mostly solo activities.
Unfortunately, that's how it is if you don't share interest with the extroverted crowds: you're just stuck looking for scraps.
When I talk to people struggling to get in for the first time, it's always people wanting cushy pay and social status - not in it because engineering is fun.
I'm the kind of person that has FUN taking a day off to screw around with pytorch and try to at least understand a little of that field, or doing something goofy with GPIO pins on my rasppi. If it was a decade ago and I didn't know better, I'd be worried, but now I realize there's always room somewhere for the true nerds, even if you have to dig around for it.
My boss has told me that he specifically aims to find the nerds and put them on his team - I imagine he's not the only one that does that.
Maybe the technology to better integrate more brain variants will eventually exist, but current VR tech already has a niche to cater to and develop from.
My hobbies involve a computer and the people I enjoy interacting with are online, not on a meetup site or at work.
The important thing is being able to self-reflect properly on it, and not delude oneself. I can still put my phone away to have dinner with family or some other outing easily, as a point of trying to be focused on whatever it is I'm doing.