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You know how this situation should have been actually handled?
"Hey [groper], get your hands off me, I don't appreciate being touched by someone I don't know and I don't appreciate your remarks either."
10 seconds, situation over. But instead, OP decided to write a novel on this "experience", and generalized to: meetups, women, and tech. Now if other women read this, they will have fear and hostility instilled in them because scumbags like OP don't know how to deal with real life and just want e-attention.
I am very open minded to problems that matter. There is no problem here. She ran into a super duper asshole, didn't outline her boundaries immediately, and instead is further polluting the tech industry with this gender nonsense. Next time some random grabs me by the shoulder that I don't know, I'm going to write an essay on it as well.
Did she get fired from a company because the CEO hates women? No.
Did she get physically assaulted or raped because she's a woman? No.
Is her pay significantly lowered simply due to the fact that she is a woman? No.
Did any significant change occur in her life from this encounter with this ONE douchebag? No.
Those are real problems which beg real discussion. This is an emotionally unstable girl who feels the world revolves around her and her gender. I know the type.
So why do I care? Why is it only women who blog about this emotional hot air?
It creates a false view of the field for other women, and when they go into it after reading crap like this, they assume this is what it's like.
Next time somebody gives me an off handed remark about something, I'm going to generalize as well and cry wolf online.
It's blowing up a problem that isn't a problem at all, way out of proportion.
I get groped at bars all the time by women, I don't make a whiny blog post about it. Kind of funny she made the post and claimed to "have a thick skin".
She clearly suffered a fair amount of emotional trauma from this rather mild leg grabbing. Did she do something about it? Of course she didn't.
Women in the tech industry is the next phase of Shakespearean drama.
Every time some retarded bullshit gender article meanders across my front page on HN, I'll shit post it. Why? Because HN is not your personal feminist platform. Flood twitter with your personal garbage.
"The intimidation, the mental abuse aspect of it is enough."
versus
Collecting wood in a forest 40km away so you can stoke a fire and your family can eat.
Tell the guy to get his hands off you, grab a seat, introduce yourself. Everyone needs an emotional baby sitter and therapist nowadays.
Why is this article on HN? Who cares?
Ugh, this entire thing is in coffeescript too, now I have to learn coffeescript to make sense of this library.
Started using Sketch a few weeks back, never went back to Photoshop.
When I design, I usually just have livereload running with my website on my right monitor and code in my left. Ctrl+S = refreshes the site = very easy to develop with just html/css.
I supposed girls nights out are now sexist as well, or just chilling with the guys and no girls.
How far will it go?
Let it be.
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This is the future.
Could not have said it better myself.
Look at it from my point of view. I now live in a world where:
- I don't ever have to think about money, or food, or basic necessities - Everything I do is simply making use of all the shit that has been delivered right to my doorstep
Define "harder", because if you are struggling in the first world with such intangibles like race, skin color, and sexuality, then you really need to check yourself and realize how good you have it.
Because some random manager or someone formed an initial bias about you based on your outward appearance is not privilege, it's personal bias and we all have it.
The fact that I work at arguably the whitest place to work (largest investment bank in a first world country) that employs over 50% females of all varieties already wrecks your "privilege" assumption.
Do you know why? All those different people were hired solely based on their work and experience, nothing else.
I see all these articles and postings about what white privilege affords me, but none of it is concrete. I can't find anything tangible, where someone was explicitly discriminated against in the tech industry for their skin color or sexual preference.
I'm also gay as it fucking gets, yet I don't go around flaunting it and start making it a problem, to the point where my life revolves around my sexuality.