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I'm happy for you that you got over Jordan Peterson. IMO you drew the wrong conclusions about him though. From what I've heard/read of Peterson, he is usually correct in his observation/analyses, BUT only within the framework of very conservative role models. The point here is that he doesn't even add original ideas.

I think what makes him so popular among his fans is that he lends scientific credence to embracing reactionary role models. Some men (and even a few women) seem to feel deeply insecure without a very explicit set of rules of how to interact with the opposite sex, how to live even. Maybe some men feel threatened by emancipated women or maybe they can't find their place in a society that places few constraints on what to do after growing up.

Peterson spells out for them in detail how to conform to the traditional gender roles historically endorsed by the church, but he substitutes the foundation of christian moralism with evolutionary theory and sociology. He's handing his disciples a step by step guide to building a family. Why this brand of "neo-conservatism" can be popular in a secular world, one where science offers explanations once received through faith, but fails to provide the comfort and sense of belonging that Christianity built its success on ever since its humble beginnings as an obscure, persecuted underground cult in the Roman Empire, doesn't need much explanation.

Believe it or not, there are in fact women subscribing to these old school values. It's not like Peterson is forcing anyone to roll back the achievements of feminism or promoting inequality, just some archaic ideas that still work well enough for some to embrace them as a template for their lives.

What's so toxic or controversial about that?

I've been at crossroads at several points in my life and realized that I was in too deep to trust my own decision making to be sound.

Getting on the internets and asking total strangers for their opinion helped me snap out of it. Even though I mostly didn't take their advice, being confronted with the aloof views of randos with no stake in my dilemma was what I needed to see the big picture beyond the walls that had already closed in on me.

In either of these situations，I'm certain a friend would have been either too compassionate or too afraid to appear immoral to give me the cold, hard truth.

Hooray for assholes that don't give a fuck =D

It's a problem many women face. Scenario: late night walk home in a quiet street. Suddenly, a group of young males, obviously drunk, approaches from the front.

Most women instinctively cross over to the other side of the road, equating distance with safety, without realizing that this is signaling just the kind of vulnerability that makes them appear as potential prey to a certain type of male predator in the first place.

Hate to be the party pooper, but the proper diagnosis for "something like paranoid disease" is called "paranoid schizophrenia" and if you had any idea what that implied you might have sounded like less of a Jackass.

Your "problem" is colloquially called "teenage angst" and adequate treatment can be achieved by reading The Catcher In The Rye, listening to copious amounts of Grunge music and, if you have enough status among your peer group, fucking your brains out with someone equally confused as yourself but of the (usually) opposite sex, about whom only in hindsight when it is too late you'll realize that you actually cared about.

From someone who used to be content with being alone most their life：Nothing hurts as much as being forced to be alone when you have become used to sharing life with someone else.

Consider the opposite though：imagine being trapped in a relationship both sides feel compelled only "for the Kids". If you feel bad for being alone, realize that what you got is the closest a human can be to true freedom. Only in being alone can you be unconstrained by the wants or needs (hell， just the wishes) of another person.

Your future self might envy this luxury of yours, so appreciate it while you can.

Look at the signal that is the net today. As long as you see something that cannot be adequately explained with simply increasing entropy, there's a chance it's someone just like you speaking. Don't be afraid to speak up and reach out.

Even those who wish for censorship to protect their own interests， at the very least their agents， are most likely humanists - for now.

As long as we have reason to hold on to this assumption, know that you are not alone - even though most of those who you would like to speak to may prefer to stay silent over having every Syllable of their public speech recorded for perpetuity and likely analyzed for exploitability， not unlike a software bug allowing privilege escalation.

IMO, it has never been a better time to speak up. We may be the last generation to know the true meaning of free speech, where it is still possible to express or share an opinion before an Al evaluates, scores, judges it.

Even those tasked with watching us must realize that the short term goal is to make them redundant, to replace their weary eyes with an automaton that will never question the morality or ethics of their surveillance of us and thereby，their future selves. Trust them not to rat you out simply for extending the courtesy of assuming good intentions.

Guess why everything is now being recorded unconditionally： The hardest idea to contain is that we're all equal， which is incidentally the singular proof necessary that the 'net community transcends nations. It blows a hole through any| nationalist or elitist rhetoric, it turns into a leaky sieve any argument justifying war. You will find that those who oppose this view most likely do so because they have come to rely on control through fear. They'll find It hard to keep you afraid if you do not feel alone.

And you are far from alone. you've got a worldwide communications network at your fingertips. Say hi, stranger!

Merry Christmas!