pricees
What I do now:
Explicitly state what should be obvious: "there is rarely a free lunch. everything has trade-offs." This also _always_ neutralizes the conversation, because it's no longer about winner-take-all existential threat to my ego, it's about preferences across a continuum.
For example:
I was at dinner with friends, I was talking about Roblox and the founders discussion on Conversations with Tyler. We were interrupted by the waiter to take an order. Afterwards, we resumed and I said "where was I?", my friend said: "you were telling us why Roblox is bad." and I said: "I am a poor communicator, there isn't a bad and good, it's that there are trade-offs..." This gave everyone an opportunity to keep their respect and dignity without feeling like there was a judgment.
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Why did I spend so much time posting this to HackerNews when I should be working? Ego!! No one cares what you have to say, pricees, go back to work. Okay, I will!
Is it the game changer we thought it would be? No. We thought my daughter would want to call her friends as much as she wants us to call their friends' parents to have them come over. We thought my son would use it as much as he texts on his gizmo.
Having said this, they are getting experience, albeit infrequent, with saying "Hello.... I love you. Goodbye."
And, yeah, when it rings, there is a mad-dash to pick it up. There is something uniquely pre cell phone ("reminds me of the 80s") about the joy and wonder of "Who could be calling me (at this hour)?"
This is one of the worst rules I have ever read. Taken literally it can squander a life otherwise well lived.
Now, I take the different approach. My wife can have enemies. My friends can have enemies. But I stay out of gossip (which gossipers hate) and off social media. I can listen to my wife vent, I don't have the luxury of hating people or cutting people out of my life for trivial reasons.
I thought this article was meant to be a sarcastic take on the emotional toxicity pervading most of society today. It reads like the diary of a codependent sociopath, which makes for entertaining television, but a miserable life.
Best of luck to you.
Normal people don’t act like this. They need help. But until they get help it’s best to avoid feeding the monster.
My perception is that people claim it’s polluted with white supremacy, but haven’t actually seen it unless they go looking for it specifically.
Hope this helps.
It’s still a big time suck for someone like me.
I am certainly not saying Wikipedia is scripture; however, those fears -- like so many tech fears before and after -- have turned out to be baseless.
Now if you'll excuse me, I must go and dust off my Encarta CD-ROM. I want to hear what an Elephant sounded like in 1995.
It was a generalized banquet hall/dinner/wedding seating chart.
The one that I was looking to write involved the following specs:
- friends and +1s sit together
- guests could sign up as a "group" (Tom's group) and sit together
- cluster people from the same area, or not even close to the same area
- some guests need to be prioritized as close to the front of the room/stage/guest(s)-of-honor
These were very difficult specs to satisfy and not getting it right was not an option since folks were paying $50 a plate with ~600 guests. The solution has always been to do it by hand.
I can still remember plugging my USB Robotics 14.4k modem in for the first time. We could transfer 1 megabyte in 5 1/2 minutes!!
Thanks for the memories.
Here's a shout out to all those who read 2600 magazine and tried to hack their local PBXs so that they could call some TDT support board, internationally.
Perhaps try nicheless.blog, I write there regularly. Given a 300 word limit, I can write one or two thoughts. The word limit necessitates merciless editing, if i care to have a coherent message to say to the reader.
I write about, literally, anything, at first. Writing is a muscle rarely used by anyone. It is a superpower that could be mastered, or at least harnessed, by everyone.
Currently I write about boring ole everyday subjects. Putting in the work. However, I am getting ready to try flash fiction, then perhaps a short story.
Good luck.
Please let it all burn.
But also please regulate and support US dollar backed stablecoins. Folks in various other countries shouldn’t suffer from their own governments lack of fiscal restraint and sophistication. If the US dollar is going to remain the reserve currency, make it accessible for everyone around the world.
(I am not here to make any value judgments)
I am currently learning Spanish. - Use Babbel to bootstrap conversational Spanish [learning enough to express myself, but also those quick wins that keep it fun] - I handwrite the conjugations to learn verb tenses and moods [diving into the specific details] - I use anki (spaced rep) for learning verbs and nouns [expanding knowledge] - And I talk to native speakers, who have been more than happy to chat. [feedback loop]
I am not the brightest bulb in the shed and doing this with deliberate practice has gotten me pretty far in 6 weeks.
Politics is tricky. I have/had to do a lot more public relations. Starting/running book/video clubs, making time for 1:1s with coworkers, I even did a 2+ year stint of starting off the morning slack chats with a dad joke, that was very appreciated. There are many ways to be productive, but I had to find ways to stay noticed, likable, relevant, and appreciated outside the pull requests. As my former manager said, if no one remembers who you are, you will become just a line item on the payroll.
I am a wantrepreneur with 4+ failed side projects. These aren't only solo projects. Two founders: no customers.
What comes first: the first customer or the first iteration of "an idea"?
I yield the time.
My perspective on life completely changed.
I am not even sure i was more productive. I certainly had more me time, coding, reading, working out. But time with my kids is beyond rewarding. I still need an income, but my image, ego, and self worth is not attached to my job or validation from my peers....now its attached to my 2 year olds whims and my ability to change a dirty diaper in 30 seconds. Flat.
Good, bad, or indifferent, I land on the same 5-10 platforms (or did Google only promote those platforms??) for 95% of my searches. This makes DuckDuckGo's !bang commands more efficient than a Google search.
Google wins for completely agnostic default searches and rich map functionality. For everything else, I am very satisfied with DDG.
Luckily they make up for all of this by unfairly punishing individual citizens....without connections and who can't afford a good lawyer.