makerleader

I'm in the process of building something currently, it will be an online course teaching the basics + mentor/mentee/general career advice forum.

Feel free to email me: [email protected] w/ any specific questions, I am happy to help (I am currently in a leadership role in the high frequency trading industry).

I am currently developing a program/course to deal exactly with this issue (15+ years as a team lead/manager/director, started in systems admin and development). I want to take a few students one on one through the course. Feel free to email me: [email protected].

I was going to wait a few weeks, until I had more content ready, but might as well start now.

If anyone else is running into something similar, shoot me a note, we can get a 5-6 person study group together and I'd happy to provide some generic basics, and do a deeper dive into the specific issues you may be having (free of charge obviously, hopefully in exchange for some feedback).

“Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather he must recognize that he is who is being asked." - Viktor Frankl

This is the best "reference" book out there in my opinion.

My algorithm for making decisions now boils down to:

Filling out this: https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/2014/02/decision-journal/

and referencing applicable models from Seeking Wisdom and https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/mental-models/

I am developing a course to help people who want to transition from tech to leadership and/or management; shoot me an email: [email protected]. I'd love to chat to see what you are struggling with specifically, and what your situation is.

I totally agree with stepping back, analyzing for a period, and figuring out the best approach; I just think if a managers first inclination is to derive pleasure from harshly criticizing someone there is something really wrong with the environment/leadership/their personality.

"It would have been so easy, and felt so good in the moment to criticize them harshly."

If you have to fight the urge to criticize someone harshly, I think there are deeper rooted issues, lack of empathy being what comes to mind first. I took this article to be a lengthy way of saying "establish habits to not be a dick to employees", whereas most of the great managers I have had (and strive to be myself) come from the place of I really really want my employees to succeed, and will do what it takes to ensure that.

To say this article misses a bit of nuance is a major understatement. The descriptions (w+s, s-w, etc.) are limited, and where people fall on the spectrum (even on this limited black/white list of personality types), ebb and flow on a daily/weekly basis.