lucidz

I'm certainly no expert on happiness. I feel like i'm always ice skating on a highwire. But I think one important thing to do is, when things are good, don't be afraid to admit, out loud, that things are good.

I think being on edge and always waiting for the other shoe to fall hampers the enjoyment of the high. For most of us, life is crests and valleys, but while in the valleys, we are used to saying "Oh my god, this is so bad" instead of "Only way to go from here is up!", I notice that in the crests, people tend to not say "Man, things are really GREAT right now!"

I try to make it a habit to point this out fairly often.

Sometimes definitely wonder how many people read the article.

the article actually starts: IN THE QUEST to study human happiness, including its causes and effects, even agreeing on a definition is a formidable undertaking. Joy, euphoria, contentment, satisfaction—each of these, at times, has been used as a proxy or emphasized in research studies.

So i mean, they basically get that idea out of the way in the first paragraph.

if someone wants to retreat into a bottomless void to avoid daily life - they can do it in any manner of way. Alcohol is arguably easier to fall and a damn sight harder to get away from. And booze will KILL you.

Weed may ruin your social life and career but booze can literally kill you and people around you.

It still boils down to what rights the government has to legislate something like this based on poor choices of a few individuals.

Besides lets not pretend there's any reason its illegal any more except for pharma, booze, casinos and probably cigarette mfgers

Startups are a great way to "passionately work in a fast paced environment that's going to change the world"

Translation: "Passionately" - we will underpay you "Fast paced" - 7 days a week "Change the world" - we won't ipo but sell out to a company for a few hundred million which you won't see a dime of.

GL!

(Source: too much time interviewing in silicon valley)

what don't you like about it? are you just not cut out for software development or is it just the companies?

Is there something that DOES excite you? Management? Databases? Switching Stack (lamp for ms, or .NET for full stack, cloud stuff?)

I would think if you've been doing it for 10 years, you probably can start shifting around and picking up new things and make a pseudo career change

wow there are a lot of people here being doom and gloom.

Look, you're the equivilent of a fry cook. You want a good job, be a chef. How do you get to be a chef, you ask? You stick around, and get on burger duty, and eventually, someone has you cook a steak.

The point is: you're super new to this. Eventually, you will have enough experience that you can CHOOSE your jobs. Sure, 99% of the programming jobs may be boring tedium, but if you are good, you'll be able to choose the 1% that aren't.

But when you're starting out you just have to be a sponge and keep an open mind. Either find a niche or be great at everything, but dont just get by, because that's how the 99% does it.

Source: 17 years in SW - I'm an enterprise architect.