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Obviously I don’t know you and my advice might be off, but maybe it will help. I am also male - but I know several women who were at your situation, and opted to go at it alone (through a sperm donation) or with a non married partner (like being divorced from day zero), and are very happy about this decision.

You really want children, and I think that you will regret it very much if you don’t have them. You also want love - but that’s not something that is so easy to find with so much pressure involved.

Of course it’s not ideal - but life never is. So go make these children. You have all of life to find love.

Hedge funds are a very diverse group: from small shops managing tens of millions to the large funds managing tens of billions.

The very good ones probably make around 20% a year (meaning that they earn around $40M per year per $1B that’s under management).

HFT companies are a different story. The biggest ones make around $1B/year (e.g Virtu, Flow Traders which are public), with a few of them even bigger.

There are many tier two companies making tens - few hundred million dollars per year.

So none of them are really big (compared, to say, a big bank), but they do make a lot of money per employee, and the salaries reflect that.