joty

It is normal in the sense that it isn't unnatural. It is normal in the sense that this is something many people experience, maybe in software in particular. It isn't normal in the sense that it is something that you should expect. If you continue to struggle with work you will be unhappy and many people are.

I am entirely capable of thinking in terms of distribution. It is people who suggest that small differences in biology would lead to large differences in outcomes that are incapable of that thinking and ignoring the large overlap between groups. Few people are protesting that marginal differences between sexes exist. It is just not relevant as a scientific explanation for gender distribution in e.g. CS.