getYeGone

I think I do require assistance. I included my email address in my profile.

Hard not feel like shit. Yesterday there was an article on reddit about how so many young men are single and sexless, which is certainly true for me, going on 5 years. In addition to the loneliness. Feels like an epidemic.

I graduated in 2020 into what was supposed to be a “regular” in-person job, that was turned into a fully remote job due to Covid. I ended up hating it there, and since have found a new primarily-remote job that I love.

My life feels hopeless. I wake up, go to the gym, and then work from 9–8. I work so much because I have nothing better to do. Then I watch a movie or some garbage on YouTube and go to bed. I have no friends. On the weekends I try my hardest not to think about other people my age (24) going out and having fun. I haven’t had fun going out with friends since college in 2019. The only things keeping me going are the gym and my work.

The days where my two teammates and I coordinate going into the office together are a nice reminder of what having friends was like. Ultimately, I go home and I am alone.

As a junior employee (1 year experience, entirely remote), you've pretty much hit the nail on the head. I've been having a miserable time working remote for all the reasons you've mentioned. It doesn't help that my team seems to really lean into independent work. The biggest thing that I wish I had was more opportunities to learn from senior devs.

Now that I feel like I have enough experience to find a new job, I will be looking for a workplace with a strong emphasis on in-person work & collaboration.

This describes my situation pretty well. Working remotely makes "getting away with it" all too easy. Unfortunately the effect it's having on me is a great deal of anxiety. Though the anxiety is probably a combination of many factors: lack of social life/friends post-graduation, feeling stuck at a job I don't enjoy, wanting to move out of my parents' house but not knowing where to go.