gerdibot
A lot of the other stuff can be worked out. You can move closer to work or better yet negotiate a remote working environment ( if possible ) You can find a hobby , granted that's not so easy to do. And increases in salary are inevitable and can be negotiated.
What i would suggest is talking directly with HR and not your manager. These are trained professionals who sometimes have really good insight into the peripheral aspects of the work environment. If you do stay and they see you have potential for a management role, or you push yourself into that direction i.e MBA night school etc, the more time you have with company the greater chance of that happening, as well as being fully prepared to move into the position when it presents itself.
In the end though go with what feels right for you ( i know that sounds cliche, but in the end it is your life) I just quit my job, but not for salary reasons so it was a lot easy to decide. $130k with equity does not sound bad, but i guess it all depends on your previous experience and qualifications.
There is some pretty good scuba diving around Seattle ... just for a hobby suggestion. I found scuba diving to be super peaceful and relaxing.