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You're completely disregarding the root of where lack of politeness or giving regards to others come from. Children's behaviors do not arise from random sources outside of parental control. Children are not naturally impolite or disregarding.

I made no comment about what non abusive families are like. This article is suggesting a causal relationship between family conflict and screen time. I'm suggesting that family conflict can cause screen time.

One can argue that `they dont come with expectations that you behave politely or give regards to others` is a family conflict that causes screen time.

It's not stupid. Your parents are treating you with contempt. People try to jump hoops to act like that's acceptable but no one, no child, no adult, enjoys being treated with contempt. Now imagine getting that from your caregivers who make up the majority of your world.

As someone who used a lot of screens and was lonely in my youth, I can say with confidence that it was a response the family conflict in my home, not the creator of it. If my parents provided me a stable, non-abusive home, if they prioritized my emotional health and needs, I would've happily spent my time with them, not with randoms I found on the internet.

Excellent post, and thank you for sharing.

I think if you're in the position of being a founder, this article isn't for you. And our conversation isn't really talking about the same thing, which explains the lack of common ground here.

Politics involves understanding the hierarchy though. And understanding when you are overruled.

If the hierarchy is saying "it's time for GenAI", you have the option to participate in a way that raises your profile and positively influences the company (involving politics), if you hate GenAI so much you can leave, or you can stay silently and opt out of the process. These are all choices. Personally I'm fine with my VCs making strategic decisions since they trust me to make technical decisions. So we can do GenAI, we'll just do it in a way that works and is sustainable for the codebase.

You should realize that as a technical person your domain is not business strategy. Similarly I'd be shocked if any VC ever came in and told me "to use PostgreSQL" or some other nonsense. If you want to be the person deciding what we build, go into Product.

I dunno, honestly, my organization works a lot like what the post is describing. I think my org has healthy politics but at the same time I can't really tell if the times I thought the politics were "toxic" were simply because I was on the outside looking in, whereas this time I'm an operator in the space.

I mean sometimes you are outruled. That's part of recognizing politics, in my opinion. If your VCs want you to do GenAI and you think it's dumb, you are overruled. But you can still benefit from this in a lot of ways. You just need to recognize what you can benefit from.

I think the article is arguing that if you build the relationship, you can involve yourself into these conversations early enough to direct them the way that your idea would go. In your cases, for example:

1. Recognizing early enough that this Hot New Thing incentive is here and figuring out how your Good New Thing can live with the Hot New Thing

2. Helping show the Old Bad Thing is unworkable for your Good New Thing

3. Understanding that the org cares about New Buzzword and framing your work under those pretenses.

> So JSX is pure Javascript and not, say, a dialect of XML embedded in JS?

This is actually the selling point to me. As someone who started learning pure HTML, JSX just makes a lot of sense to me intuitively. It feels like intelligent HTML

Wow, wonderful. Thank you

Wow, I enjoyed your comment deeply and it reminded me of 15+ years ago on the internet, where your experience really matched mine. I still am friends to this day with the people I met 15+ years ago. I haven't made an internet friend in over 10 years though.

I personally believe that part of this is due to the upvote/downvote culture of Reddit. We're all incentivized to say something that will attract upvotes. There's a positive side to this -- thanks to this I regularly read really funny, entertaining comments. Genuine genius in the comments section.

On the other hand, its just to entertain. There's nothing really human or of substance there. Or, what's especially dangerous, to say something that bucks the trend, the status quo, admit an unpopular vulnerability outloud and suddenly you're hit with waves upon waves of downvotes. Not only that but I genuinely believe that the downvotes empowers angry debaters to come in and pick apart whatever it is that you said, just to enjoy the upvotes. I perceive it as a kind of bullying.

At any rate, I don't think these spaces are designed for intimacy. They're designed for memes and funny jokes, not genuine conversations.

yeah, nextjs middleware is garbage

imo, if docs never give a clear example of what something is for, that's a pretty good sign that this was just tacked on without considering any particular use case. i've come to realize that nextjs probably intends for us to use RSCs for most middleware-like behaviors

I love small space office builds! I also have a tiny den. I would love to see more inspiration of how people use that kind of space, especially if it's (sadly) windowless, which I think makes it pretty hard

Does anyone know if this is wasting my context window with Claude?

Maybe this is just a feature to get us to pay more

Narrow down clearly what exactly I want to do with this side project.

Too many of my early projects sort of became a jumble of different aspirations, most of them unrelated to the core product idea behind the side project. I want to learn Elixir, I want to try Next Auth, I want to try Remix, I want to learn Haskell, I want to build my own Shopify, I want to -- and the list goes on. Being clear and honest with myself about what those things are makes the scope of a project more clear to me and I can make judgment calls this way on what stays or goes.

Yes, absolutely.

The reason why my startup uses Zapier isn't because we prefer to use no-code to orchestrate this specific workflow. It's because it's faster than building out all the webhooks, routers, integrations, tables, etc necessary to make this workflow work, stuff that Zapier already natively supports

Here's my hot take -- interviewing sucks because it's hard to fire people.

At every place I've worked at, spanning a whole spectrum of places (Google, Discord, tiny, huge), its been a truth universally acknowledged that interviewing is a garbage metric full of false negatives. But we'd all rather put candidates through the gauntlet than the whole team through the firing gauntlet.

Make it easier to fire and interviews will be less insane.

I only use tmux for one reason -- for a script that setups my local server and runs backend/frontend/etc

If there's a better way, I'm open to it. As of right now Claude can't vibe code me a script that opens two ghostty tabs, so tmux it is

I honestly don't care that much if Granola uploads my notes to some external service. Work conversations are not private anyways.

HOWEVER, I was extremely disturbed to find out that Granola was automatically making each of my notes folders public to the entire organization. Including 1:1s, you guessed it.

Yeah, really shook my trust in this product by a lot.

tbh, claude code is the only product that feels like its made by people who have actually used AI tooling on legacy codebases

for pretty much every other tool i've used, you walk away from it with the overwhelming feeling that whoever made this has never actually worked at a company in a software engineering team before

i realize this isn't an answer with satisfactory evidence-based language. but I do believe that there's a core `product-focus` difference between claude with other tools

This is a great comment. My "Aha" moment with org-mode was when I started using it to track my TODOs on ongoing branch. I was able to link bookmarks to actual code from my org mode agenda, jump back and forth between my todo list and the actual code in my repo, add more, add context, etc.

Orgmode isn't really just a MD equivalent. It's the integration into Emacs and the entire platform that makes it so incredible and powerful. I would love an alternative because as TS developer I don't use Emacs anymore (non VSCode LSP is a nightmare to run) but it just doesn't exist :(

> I have a theory, based on many years of research and practice with Anki, that true healing from any kind of psychic illness only starts to set in place when you start to genuinely forget what it was ever like to be ill at all.

I found this line thoughtprovoking.

From 5-20 I was severely depressed. Now it's been 10 years, and I'm not depressed anymore. In fact, those years feel like a factual moment in my life, not something whose emotional state I can really recall and bring in my present life -- unlike, for example, the grief of losing any pet in my life. That still comes back with raw power.

Maybe try not drinking for a week and seeing what happens? It's hard to say. I think a lot of people hover in this inbetween of frequent casual drinking that for some people becomes pathological and others it's truly optional. IMO you'll know best if you attempt to choose to stop.

replied to the parent, but --

Last time I tried I couldn't find a way to bulk delete contacts. I had to delete them all one by one. I couldn't stand how tedious it was and gave up. I don't feel any kind of sentimentality towards these contacts, given most of these people I haven't spoken to in nearly 15 years

I don't connect google to my phone anymore, so at least they don't pollute any data elsewhere

Last time I tried I couldn't find a way to bulk delete contacts. I had to delete them all one by one. I couldn't stand how tedious it was and gave up. I don't feel any kind of sentimentality towards these contacts, given most of these people I haven't spoken to in nearly 15 years

I don't connect google to my phone anymore, so at least they don't pollute any data elsewhere

I honestly prefer a pen and paper planner and just manually migrating my contacts over. Meanwhile, my personal gmail is 99.9% contacts I have no intention to ever speaking to again.

I'm a big fan of the Jibun Techo system of planners. I have a yearly planner that I get a new one every year that handles all of my every day things. I move the "LIFE" book around to each new year which holds things that matter on a yearly/longer than yearly basis.

This system is beautifully not tied to any software or thing that I have to manage. It's helped me ensure that my basic yearly needs are always handled