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To clarify, I'm aware there's a difference in perspective occurring. You're approaching it more from if it's beneficial to the larger group. But Bob is supposed to be my friend, if I can't trust him to keep something socially volatile like that a secret then he's failed me at an individual in a potentially harmful way. At an individual level it makes far more sense to bury Bob than say 'thanks for screwing me Bob'

Same answer. Bob's decided to take something told in confidence and risk my reputation sharing it. He's not only a bad friend but clearly a risk so the best move is to burn him back and as hard as possible. He's getting dragged in and if he argues Im going to turn it into a larger issue for him. If we're coworkers I'm going straight to HR and asking what to do because a fellow employee infected me and then tried to put the blame on me. Anything but total calculated aggression will justify Bobs behaviors.

Poor individuals also commit most of the crime that damages their community. Focusing only on the money at stake ignores whether or not the victims matter. I care a lot more about getting thugs and shoplifters out of my neighborhood than I care if Google 'violated' my privacy since the former hurt me in the real way and the ladder only hurts me if I'm white and paranoid.

Seems pretty simple, Bob is the asshole for being a bad friend and for pretending his backstabbing made a difference in the grand scheme of things. The people who were already exposed are either already in a hospital and know or they're fine. If I had a friend behaving like Bob I'd counter by saying I got it from him and that he's deflecting.