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What didn't help was probably the desire to force myself into liking GNOME, when normally, I fall naturally into the KDE camp, because it is beautiful without having to make things too simple, like GNOME does. Even though I agree with many of the things GNOME stands for, there is lots of stuff you wouldn't NEED to customise, or use.
Will consider KDE on my next attempt!
So far, I have converted back to macOS, which is equally bad from UX perspective, especially the hardened security - I just don't want to opt into every program getting the permission to run, send notifications, access this and that. It's just too much.
I think I will give one of the more non-corporate Linux distros a try. Or, maybe it's Pop, but ideally it should be Debian based, just not with the "outdated" experience.
I've tried so fedora, Pop!_OS, elementary, KDE Neon. As a long term Ubuntu / Debian (server) user I was used to apt but would be open to other package managers. Based on my trials, I'm probably going to go ahead with KDE Neon, that is Ubuntu with KDE Plasma Desktop. This seems to be a nice cross-over between Windows 10 and MacOS with sane defaults but enough options to tailor it to my liking.