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Women initiate divorce 70% of the time.

For college educated women this rate is 90%.

Upvoted, unfortunately it happened to me. I out-earned my spouse by 4x and lost everything when she decided she wasn't happy. Do not expect any gratitude : You have no idea who your ex-wife until you meet her in family court.

My ex wife took half of our (my) assets (including my 401k).

The lawyers took what was left as I was fighting to prevent her from moving away 3'000 miles with our kids (I had to pay for both her and my lawyer) In the end my ex wife won her move away. I lost my kids and I am now stuck paying more than half my salary in child support + child support add-ons such as private school, nannies, healthcare. The remaining of my salary is spent on travel across the country once a month to be able to see my kids.

It is a very risk bet... you don't have much to win and a lot to loose if you are a men (custody) and the higher earner.

Our society doesn't have much incentive in speaking about things which are seen as negative like death or divorce.

Marrying and having kids is also a pillar of the economy / consumption. Having multiple kids and spending several hundreds of thousands of dollars (in the US) between school, healthcare, nanny, sports gears, clothes drives the economic machine.

If men knew the dire consequences of divorce and stopped marrying and having kids, the whole GDP would take a hit.

This, and nothing prevents an ex-spouse to "challenge" the prenup. If you are the wealthier one, you will have to pay for your ex attorney's fees on top of yours. Lawyers on both sides will play this game, filing motion and racking up your bills until the wealthier spouse (usually the men is completely dried up).

See the current case of Dr. Dre which has to pay $1.5M of his wife's attorneys fees as she is challenging their prenup : https://www.complex.com/music/dr-dre-ordered-to-pay-1-millio...

For Dr. Dre who is a billionaire it is a painful lesson. For most of the average middle class men, you will end up broke sleeping in your car. Bitter women can use this "scorched earth technique" as a revenge because they know that at the end of the battle, once all the family's assets have been spent on lawyers, the wife will still get spouse and child support as a safety net.