Disruptive_Dave
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Friggin foursquare! We'd voluntarily tell the world exactly where we were at any given time (and where we weren't - at our homes).
This reads like a Vonnegut story
You're missing quite a bit of understanding here. First, I think the biggest concern is young men, who maybe haven't even had the chance to develop these social skills because they are born with the internet. Second, pick-up type skills (or any cold approach type activity) easily atrophy over time if not consistently employed. Shit, one year into a monogamous relationship and I suddenly get anxious at the thought of approaching strangers in a social setting, something I was quite comfortable with 13 months ago.
I'm also the complete opposite of the ADHD types who forget things, are late, miss details, etc. I'm pretty sure that happened because I subconsciously developed a whole series of tactics and systems to make life less challenging over the years. But that just added new issues around living and dying by to-do lists, becoming addicted to "accomplishment" (at any level), constantly in my head 24/7 about what I need to do next, what hasn't gotten done, how I'm going to do all the things I want to finish. Also wouldn't dream of announcing this to colleagues.
May I suggest not downvoting this into oblivion? We need to shine a light on this type of thinking, as it is representative of many others towards ADHDers (including many ADHDers themselves...). I have this wrestling match internally on the daily - "Am I being lazy right now or suffering from ADHD? Can I power through with determination and grit, or soften my approach and do an end-around using tactics learned in therapy?" Magnify that x1000000.
We've all encountered (in person or online) self-diagnosers, and even worse, those who make ADHD their entire personality, and calls for the world to change itself to make life easier for others. If that's your most frequent engagement with ADHD, I get how you could have OP's type of response.
"I am not my thoughts." Or, as I prefer, "these thoughts are not mine." Experience that over and over again and everything gets a little easier, a little clearer. That's when the detachment from thoughts begins.
> Reading the rest of the thread, you HN'ers are very blessed to be ignorant that such a program exists.
By this logic pretty much every single person in existence is "blessed to be ignorant" of the thousands (more?) of potential ailments they aren't facing right now. Seems like a silly POV.
> Anything can be changed.
Take that a step further; everything is change, quite literally.
Never upvote posts. I upvote comments, though my bar for upvoting is embarrassingly higher than my bar for dishing out downvotes.
The copy on this page is just choking on itself.
> To picture a Chat, imagine if your group texts and your Instagram Stories met at the park, talked for hours, became best friends and fell in love. 9 months later, they gave birth to a new way of keeping in touch – one that lets you hear your friends’ voices, meet their friends, and spend less time typing. If “social messaging” were a thing, that’s what it would be.
Wow.
Influencers & content creators. They are driving massive usage and community around gambling.
HOV lanes for 1+ passenger cars.
The book "The War of Art" themes this out nicely for creative pursuits in particular.
Broadly - conversions that you can validate. It's kind of that simple. Depends on the channel, as well. For LI and FB/IG, have tight targeting, tighter tracking, and really really good creative. As long as I'm making more than I spend, there's something there. Every now and then we turn off our ads for a month or so and analyze traffic and sales to make sure those ads aren't capturing leads that would've come in organically. Advertising is work - you have to constantly investigate and experiment and optimize and refresh. Then do it all over again when that particular well runs dry.
Me. Every single worry or concern is made in the mind. Continually grasping this and putting into practice every week.
Wouldn't it be naive to ignore context and imprudent to dismiss lessons available in this time? You can have compassion for someone AND attempt to help them learn from struggles and correct poor choices.
Your post equates "schooling" with "knowledge." If that's the context, then I'd take experience + attitude > knowledge every single day of the week. If "knowledge" includes schooling + work experience, then it depends. If you have a shit attitude you need to be very top tier in "knowledge" to make it worth the rest of us dealing with you. If you have a fantastic attitude you can get away with a lower level of "knowledge" as long as you show progress when trained.
Before thinking, things are as they are. After thinking, things are as I make them to be. Before thinking, something can be experienced. After thinking, it’s all a story.
That's what meditation will eventually unearth for you. Through meditation you'll experience and begin to gain an understanding of how your mind works and how that flavors the way you go through life on a moment to moment basis.
Reading as a reader is kinda different than reading as a writer. Different mind states. As a reader I'm getting lost in a story, not picking up on writing styles and patterns. You're not wrong. Just need the caveat of reading with the intention (or partial intention) to pull yourself out of the story and check out the architecture.
This sentence has five words. Here are five more words. Five-word sentences are fine. But several together become monotonous. Listen to what is happening. The writing is getting boring. The sound of it drones. It’s like a stuck record. The ear demands some variety.
Now listen. I vary the sentence length, and I create music. Music. The writing sings. It has a pleasant rhythm, a lilt, a harmony. I use short sentences. And I use sentences of medium length. And sometimes, when I am certain the reader is rested, I will engage him with a sentence of considerable length, a sentence that burns with energy and builds with all the impetus of a crescendo, the roll of the drums, the crash of the cymbals–sounds that say listen to this, it is important.
So I write with a combination of short, medium, and long sentences. Create a sound that pleases the reader’s ear. Don’t just write words. Write music.
(Gary Provost)
Love to hear more. I've had an e-comm idea for that industry for a while now.
I don't disagree completely on that. It was factored into my lifestyle. I was OK with that. We only have so much energy in our lives. Waking up each morning and being the best I could be to myself and those in my vicinity seemed a worthwhile goal. Tend to the part of the garden you can touch.
I've lived decently well for 15+ years under the assumption that "if it's important, it'll find its way to me." Haven't watched/read the news in that time span and don't think I've lost out on much because of it.
Some of what you described I believe to be very healthy discomfort. The type that is needed for growth. The type that can often lead to unexpected adventures. The type that you become thankful for years down the road. "It's all a breeze" is my biggest fear re: how society seems to be optimizing itself right now. Truth be told, a breezy life doesn't feel that interesting to me.
Had the same thought. Lots of really big assumptions here with zero fact or evidence to back them up. And poor lack of awareness. Be careful judging, my friends.
These posts are always useless without relevant information. Convince me that you know *how* to advertise and then tell me that it "didn't work" and we can have an actual conversation about it. Author didn't even show the actual ads! Targeting, timing, copy, creative, landing pages, retargeting, follow-up... Give us something to work with here.
Meditate. Expose yourself to the feeling of letting go.
Meditate: Literally train your mind to focus. It's going to the gym. Won't happen in a day, week, even month. Consistently do it and you'll eventually see progress.
Letting go: I have a long track record of starting while not going deep. Eventually, I just had to jump in the cold water and start letting things go. Literally put away physical gear for hobbies I wasn't actively engaging in but that took up a bunch of emotional and mental space and energy. Store it away and move on. Part of that process was telling myself this doesn't mean I failed or gave up or even that I would never do XYZ again. Just not now. I started learning the drums a bit ago then I also decided to try to get good at golf. Amongst other things, something had to go. Bye bye drums. Closed all the drums-related tabs. Put away the training material. It's golf time. Maybe in the cold months I'll pick back up, but for now, I'm relieving myself of the self-prescribed duty to practice drums. After doing that for a while, you feel a weight lift.
For some people, starting a bunch of things might be a way to protect against failure (or hard work) since they never actually commit to pushing something live. For others, like me, it's a lot of fun to learn something new (learn, not master).
Above any sort of passive learning is doing - meditation. This is a contact sport. No different from weight training.
Beyond that, I would recommend "10% Happier" as it is very pragmatic and belief agnostic. Good for newcomers. Next, I'd recommend "Buddhism Plain And Simple" (Steve Hagen). You do not need to follow Buddhism or have any intention to engage with it as a philosophy to wring a ton of value from the book re: how the mind works.