CapnObvious
good luck!
If you don't know the total number of shares and the percentage stake of that you've been offered, and the price of your options, the number of shares is worthless.
I think in this situation, a startup will usually say this when they're trying to screw you, but that's just my opinion. Keep in mind they will likely fail and your 30k options will be nothing but a piece of paper.
My advice? Find another company to work for that is less shady.
Well written AJAX & Java just work better and don't require some annoying plugin, download, or upgrade.
And on a sidenote, if you're on a Mac pay attention to CPU and memory usage anytime the slightest amount of flash is being used on a page, it skyrockets, totally inefficient for no particular reason. It seems SLIGHTLY better in Windows but it's still a total resource hog.
If you're to be the 5th and crucial member, I'd fight for more or don't bother. The fact is most startups don't get acquired and you aren't going to get rewarded for your 80 hour weeks and below market salary - but you will have learned a lot and you'll probably have less hair.
They'd be better off providing this demographic information to a third party advertiser than trying to sell anything on their own platform.
I love Meebo, and use it every day, but there's no way I'm going to click an ad in an IM window. As soon as AIM started throwing ads up I ditched their client and went with GAIM(pidgin now), I'd do the same thing with Meebo if they started plastering crap blinking ringtone ads all over.
F you, NYT. I don't read any of your crap because of it.
Get a bit of experience and start shopping around, that's how you'll know what you're worth.
Note that the real value of a salary is almost entirely dependent on your location and cost of living.