Is it JUST WORDS if someone insults you or your work? Or does it still hurt?

At the very least we can be constructive and civil.

I agree in the abstract. But as I have seen lately, devs (or dev advocates) are pretty snowflakey.

Probably because I think the "average" open source dev has more or less "lost the plot?" A whole lot of trying to beat Steve Jobs at his own game and far less "lets make solid software that works well for people all the time."