J&J is paused because there are alternatives that don't have clotting to the same degree.
A comparison with birth control makes no sense. Is there some magical birth control that's used orders of magnitude more (Pfizer) and orders of magnitude safer with respect to blood clotting and also prevents pregnancy?
No? Then the comparison is stupid.
IMO that lack of caution is why the USA is in this situation to begin with.
I don't agree with your analysis, I think you can see it entirely the other way, that both this pause and the initial "wait and see" attitude towards Covid are the result of an excessive bias towards the status quo. I remember back in January-February 2020 when people were saying it would be crazy to just shut down air travel, think of the massive economic cost.
J&J isn't being permanently suspended - I bet you within the coming days this ban will be reversed and people can get J&J if they'd like.