Do you wonder then maybe then when you hear a black person reporting a story of racism, that's ALSO not the only experience they've ever faced?

That maybe this anecdote was also far from the only scenario they faced?

And what does that have to do with the conversation we were having? He made it about race himself, and decided to take offense to something imaginary.

> dealing with

Even the word choice is sus

1 (usually dealings) a business relation or transaction: they had dealings with an insurance company. • a personal connection or association with someone: my dealings with David consisted of giving him his late-night formula. • the particular way in which someone behaves toward others: fair dealing came naturally to him.

A personal connection with someone, not an entire ethnic group / race of people. I really have doubts that you would say it another way.

“This kind of insensitivity always happens when I deal with white people.”

Whether its accurate or not, this comes across as a chore, as if there is a checkbox of trying that I get around to on occasion. As opposed to just socializing with people.

and the second bullet point doesn't even apply as thats not how you used it.

You should really engage in deeper introspection of your interactions to see why this is a chore for you.