Laurent, this sounds dismal and I am sorry. What you talk about in paragraph one is a real thing - there are plenty of people who are your friends when everything is great but fade when you need a little bit of help (even if you're not even asking them for it.) I experienced that recently, it's really disappointing. But I also experienced a surprising amount of help from people I wasn't even close to and it was just a reminder to me to default to be that kind of person. That's actually what inspired my original post.

About your paragraph two, I kinda agree - there's a big divide between people who talk a big game about inclusivity etc and those who quietly practice it as a matter of principle.

Anyway, for what it's worth I hope things turn better for you, and I just want to say that destructiveness and self-destructiveness aren't going to help anything.

If you treat generosity as a form of investment, you are bound to be disappointed. I see it as a small contribution to a better world. If you want something back, ask for money and call it a job.